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#Lemonade: The Many Layers of WOMAN


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Lemonade.

Layers.

Love.

Liberation.

Last night, April 23, 2016, a movement occurred.  While some call it feminism, I simply call it truth.  Beyonce’s visual album “Lemonade” was what we can assume to be her truth, but it displayed the truth of many women.  Beyonce is not the first woman to address women’s truth, however she is the first to do it in this way; an artistic form; a visualization of the many layers of women and some of the issues women go through.  So let us give credit where credit is due; thank you Beyonce for this piece of art!  Truth is the movement; it is a movement of truth.  A women’s truth.  Furthermore, a Black woman’s truth.  It is not about a woman scorned or the angry Black woman!!  (I had to put exclamation points behind that one)  Again, it is not about a woman scorned or the angry Black woman!!  It is about the emotions of a Black woman and the many layers of why such emotions exist.  The emotions of pain, doubt, love and liberation, to name a few.  It’s Black Girl Magic!!

“Lemonade” simply put is Beyonce telling the world Jay-Z cheated and the perfect love story of Jay and Bey is not so perfect after all.  LOL on that!!  Quite the contrary, Beyonce is sharing with the world, especially the young black girls and Black women, we all go through some of the same experiences when it comes to love.  Love in the form of relationships and love in the form of self.  One could argue that is one in the same.  It’s a struggle, it is a fight, and you are not alone.  THAT is simply put what “Lemonade” is about.  Everyone will not understand the transparency and the message.  Those who do not understand may not have reached such layers because it is all about layers.  And let’s be clear this has nothing to do with whether or not you like Beyonce as an artist.  It is about understanding the message, in a nutshell LOVE IS DEEP!  But didn’t we already know this?  Well as a woman you evolve over time and began to see things differently.  As you grow you see and feel the woman’s plight, and then eventually realize rather than a plight it is a power like no other.  Maaaaan!!!  Let me just say it was so refreshing to see and hear someone say the things I’ve felt as of late.

I loved the transparency of “Lemonade,” so let me be transparent.  As a newly married woman in my early 30’s the pressures have been overwhelming.  I’ve been struggling some months now with understanding my place as a woman, a married woman, and prayerfully a mother in the future.  I’ve questioned, am I doing enough for myself personally and professionally; am I doing enough to be a good wife; am I doing enough to prepare for motherhood; will I be a good mother; am I making him happy; most importantly am I making Him happy?  As a Virgo I am already overly analytical, but these lingering feeling and thoughts feel different.  I am in a moment of fear and doubt.  It wasn’t something I could put into words, so I think this is why I was so touched by “Lemonade” because it was put into words for me.  Damn.  For those who do not understand, it is far from playing victim (people like to throw that around a lot), rather it is a process of understanding the pressures, or as I like to call, the root of evil.  Male-bashing??  If the truth is infidelity, then how is it male-bashing?  Rather there is a level of respect for a man who was unfaithful, eventually accountable, and in the end supports his woman who chooses to share her story.   That shows a man whose love for his woman (WIFE) is greater than his pride.  Ya’ll don’t hear me though (lol).  Back to my initial point, the pressures can kill you if you let them.  Women have to look to their faith of course, but it is also necessary for women to look to other women to get through.  We are a powerful being.  So if you get it, you know this movement of truth, “Lemonade,” was deeper than Beyonce the entertainer.  It was an artist, a woman, expressing and sharing her truth and the truth of so many women; Intuition; Denial, Anger, Apathy, Emptiness, Accountability, Reformation, Forgiveness, Resurrection, and Redemption.  “My torturer [LOVE] became my remedy” – love of self and love of companionship.  #Lemonade  

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“A New You” – A Little Change Goes A Long Way


If it’s not one thing, it’s another. I’ve felt this way for a month or so now. When my personal life is ‘blah,’ my professional life is booming. Now my personal life is fantastic and my professional life is ‘blah.’ Don’t get me wrong I am blessed and thankful for where I am professionally, but I know I can do more and I want more. Yesterday I got tired of being tired and said “it’s time for a change.” First I needed a push in the right direction, so I turned to a motivational book I bought some time last year. I wanted to share with you a passage from the book, “A New You: Words To Soothe The Mind, Body, And Spirit” by Catherine Galasso-Vigorito. You can relate this passage to any situation you’re dealing with; dating, relationship, family, job, etc. It is a little lengthy, but it is worth the little time it will take you to read it. Especially if you are going through a transition period and need motivation, this is for you…the new you.

God Has A Plan for the Life of Every Person

   The One who formed the brilliant stars and made the vast oceans created you out of His great love. His genuine devotion to His children lights the way as we travel through life.
God’s love is sincere and constant and knows no boundaries or limits. Just as each star has its place and course, God has given to each of us a divine purpose, a plan for our lives.
As your guide, He will take you our of confusion and will help you to reach your destiny.
You are a worthwhile, significant, and valuable person. Since the beginning of time, there has never been anyone else exactly like you and there never will be again. You’re capable of great things and deserve the best.
There is no one who can duplicate all of the attributes that only you possess. You are precious and are esteemed the most valuable treasure on earth. Generously equipped in both mind and body, you can do miraculous things with your life.
You have extraordinary capabilities and the world can benefit from your many talents. Utilize your full potential to make it a better place for yourself and for generations to follow. Everyone has many gifts to offer; find what you are best at and give that gift to others. A talent concealed or not expressed soon dries up and withers away, so extend it out to the world. It is like a little pebble that is dropped into the ocean, and the countless rings that are formed from its beginning are constantly getting bigger and bigger.
Have a healthy self-respect. God made you very special, so hold a high opinion of your own worth. Exude an air of gently confidence. People will perceive you as you perceive yourself.
Gentleness is not an absence of power, but a sign of great inner strength. How you act will determine how people will react to you.
Self-confidence differs from conceit or arrogance. Is is a calm, serenely poised attitude that dares to achieve the very best.

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